Valentine’s Day?

Every day is Valentine’s day at my house. I am fixated on my wife and make it my goal to show her how much I love her in new ways every day. I buy flowers, do the laundry, clean up the kitchen and house, do the driving, give her kisses all the time, text her throughout the day telling her how much I love her and how great she is.

To be honest, I haven’t always been this obsessed, but I like doing it now. It has a lot to do with the cancer medicine I’m on, but it’s really just enhanced the feelings I’ve always had.

In fact, we were talking last night and both admitted that at one time or the other we each had doubts about our marriage. I think it’s only normal to have those feelings and to work through them, and we both did. Those struggles actually enforced our commitment to each other, so, in that case, they’re beneficial. I’ve often compared my wife with other women and she’s always came out at the front of the line. I just can’t imagine being married to anyone else. We are so different in so many ways, but those things don’t bother us in the least.

We like different styles of music; we don’t handle stress the same; we have different tastes in T.V. shows; she is easily embarrassed and I love embarrassing her; I’m more organized; she’s good at math, I’m good at English; I work with computers and they’re terrified of her. I think it might work to our advantage to be such opposites in so many ways because it forces us to be patient and unselfish toward each other, and isn’t that what life is all about? We are all born selfish and it takes a lifetime to unlearn that. Marriage should be a tool that helps us if we’ll let it. It’s so very easy to be selfish with our time and interests, but if we really love our mate we’ll push those aside for them. I try and treat my wife as if she’s a princess. I want her to think she’s the most important person in my world and I would not hesitate to change my plans if it would benefit her in any way.

She’s always been my best friend since the moment I met her, and I didn’t care who criticized me for that over the years, I think that’s how a husband and wife are supposed to act like. When I was first married and someone asked me to do something I’d want to check with Kathy to see if she minded and would get ridiculed and criticized for it. I didn’t care. I knew I’d rather spend time with her than anyone else anyway.

So, anyway, I bought her some flowers while I was at lunch today and I’m taking her out to eat tonight for Valentines. I’ll probably get her a little something else on Monday just because it’s the official day anyway…...

And, she’s worth it!