The Grandkids

Two of our grandkids will be leaving for Greenville, SC on Friday. This is a rather difficult time for us as you can imagine. We are a close knit family and it’s hard on us, knowing we’ll not be able to see them as often as we’d like. Our son and his wife are divorcing and she’s moving there to apparently find work. I’m not sure if that’s all there is to it. We know her newest boyfriend has a job there, so we have to assume that’s a big part of it. I can’t imagine what my son is going through during this time, but I have to believe it involves tears.

Bottom line? He made a very big mistake when he married her. I don’t know why he married her, except he thought he could ‘rescue’ her. She was pregnant with another man’s son, on her own and she came from a broken family. You never know what’s going on in another person’s brain or heart and a lot of the time they don’t either, but, their relationship has been rocky at best and a nightmare a good bit of the time. He medicated himself during the whole thing until last year, which I’m sure contributed to the problems. But, after encountering her mood swings and dual personalities I don’t blame him. She can curse you one day and act like your best friend the next, which makes it difficult to know who she really is.

Of course, as his father, I naturally put most the blame on her and I’m sure that’s not fair. Theres always 2 sides to every story, no matter who you like best. Nathan has made some huge mistakes and is having to pay for them now.

There is rarely any good that comes with divorce especially if there’s children involved and now these kids will have some adjusting to do in life. Our family has never been involved in divorce and its new ground for us. It’s like an open wound that never fully heals. It stinks at times, hurts deeply at times, and you try your best to ignore it most of the time.

I’m honestly glad to see her leave. She’s caused us so much pain with her frequent tirades. I can’t stand having someone curse my wife. It just makes me boil up inside and I won’t tolerate it. And yet, she will curse her one day and call up the next like the previous incident was just dream on our part. But, even with all the mess she has thrown over the fence, she still is the mother to our grandchildren and we have to be careful to keep the relationship open if possible. She’s threatened us so many times with us never seeing the kids again, that we have to be careful how we respond.

So, we’ll call them weekly and perhaps set up a web cam so we can see them (if she gets some kid of internet access there). I’ll pray for them daily, that God will someone reach them and reveal Himself to them. I wish life were always rosy and nice and everyone got along, but that’s not how things are.